Do you ever read about positive parenting and thinking “oh, that makes total sense!”
And does your ability to be the kind, patient parent you meant to be just hours before go out the window when your kid pushes your buttons?
Me too. More often than I would like to admit.
Our ability to critically think and reason goes out the window when our stress response is activated. Humans are incapable of thinking rationally when they are in fight or flight When our children whine, don’t listen, or just hit our last nerve, we can fall back into our “survival mode” despite every intention to do otherwise.
The problem with nagging, yelling, and punishment is that the message of love can’t come through. Children (and adults) who feel disconnected don’t feel good about themselves, and they definitely aren’t motivated to cooperate.
So how can we stay calm and access our empathetic and connected selves when it matters most?
Practice when the stakes aren’t so high! Role-play and practice is the most powerful way that I have found to help the families that I work with stop talking about change and really and truly make it happen.
By exploring these ideas when we are calm (rather than scrambling to figure it out when our kids are driving us bonkers) we can respond the way that we want to when it really matters.
Ready to give it a try?
This activity is a super powerful way to get into your child’s world and come up with a better way to respond to challenging behaviors. Give it a try and let me know what you think!
And if you need a question answered or specific action plan, schedule a consultation call with me. We can do it together.XO,